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Respect Through Offense

 

Respect through Offense

I adhere to the concept of respect through offense. Now, to explain this idea, I am going to paint a picture for you. Imagine a Christian is walking by and sees a gay couple on the street. Now, the Christian and the gay couple give each other a nice long stair. Neither likes what they see. The Christian has a big King James Bible, and the gay couple have cut off shorts with the pockets going past where the jeans have been cut off.

Now, arguably we’re all offended by the cut off jeans, but let us move one. Who is at fault here? The Christian or the gay couple? My vote, neither is guilty. They both offended each other and both deserve to be offended. Offense is not a crime. Not only is offense not a crime, it is a sign of respect.

Weaker Brothers

When you self censor yourself or allow others to make you do that,
out of fear of offending someone else because “they’re weaker
brothers” or such like, You are asserting yourself over them as their
betters or superior. Hiding your opinions from them because you don’t believe they can’t take it. mark-twain-censorship-quote1
Instead, people should expect to be offended now and again. When you respect a person enough to give them your actual opinion, offensiveness and all, you’re giving them a compliment. They may even learn something or have their views broadened.

PC or Opie & Anthony

People can be insensitive, they can forget to think about everyone else in a room and say something rude. There are two ways we can deal with this, either we say nothing which could potentially offend someone (Which is everything) or we expect ourselves to grow up.

Now, I am not talking about going up to people and trying to make them cry. There is a definitive difference between offending someone and harming them.

Harm Versus Offense

To harm someone with your words is to use a connection that bypasses a person’s defenses and hurts them personally. To offend someone is to say something that agitates them. If a person starts a fight over something said, that is offense and not harm. The distinction between the two is when there is a known emotional hurt or vulnerability for a given topic or issue. Harm is done when someone deliberately hits on those topics to cause emotional distress and pain in another person.

Now, let us say a person is lording over a rape victim, making jokes about it, such a person is not just being offensive. He or she is inflicting actual, emotional harm. While there is no law against such behavior per se, it would take a special kind of piece of crap to do that. Anyone and everyone would and should be completely justified in not speaking to such a person.

White Knights

The other issues to consider is when someone takes offense on someone else’s behalf.
Taking on other people’s offenses is a terrible breach of
communication. To be offended on another person’s behalf is
detrimental because there are no limits on what that person may do, especially if the victim is a hypothetical. If someone in the room is not being harmed, there is no foul.

Final Thought

This idea is not a full expression or guide for social behavior. There are times when being confrontational or offensive are neither beneficial, kind, nor constructive. Not everyone is well suited to being offensive either, some folks are just too darn nice!
That said, people do need to try and grow up a little.

Dislocated Hipster


OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERAMost hipsters brag about liking things way before you ever did. Not me, I like stuff after it’s way out of fashion. Razr phone? Just got mine. Breaking Bad? Just started (Skyler should be more supportive). Car? Buick, 1999 Cruise Control is really handy! I hear they’re working on these things called Ipads. Sounds a little pod people to me, but hey what do I know?

Be a dislocated hipster and celebrate how old and not in style you are.

Quotes by Viktor Frankl

Viktor Frankl, a neurologist and psychiatrist,  believed that between stimuli and response, there is a personal volition and will.  From his experiences in Nazi death camps, Frankl came to believe that people cannot avoid pain, however they can choose how to respond to that pain. His theory of logotherapy is that man, rather than being motivated by pleasure, is the pursuit of meaning. Further, Frankl believed that man is not wholly dependent on the circumstances for his or her actions, instead having a choice. “Man is not fully conditioned and determined but rather he determines himself whether he give in to conditions or stands up to them. In other words, man is self-determining. Man does not simply exist but always decides what his existence will be, what he will become in the next moment.” (Man’s Search for Meaning, p. 131 to 134)

 

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Quotes by Albert Camus

Lifted from anywhere and everywhere, Albert Camus.

An anti-communist playwright, journalist, director, novelist, political essayist, activist, and vehement denier that he was a philosopher,Albert Camus.
His philosophy has been classified absurdist, continental and existential. Ultimately he raised questions such as “There is only one really serious philosophical question, and that is suicide.” “The only way to deal with an unfree world is to become so absolutely free that your very existence is an act of rebellion.”

Social Commentator, as in not given to the actual art of psychology, although touching on related subjects enough so that he and his work may present themselves as good anecdotal material. His writings describe the innermost war that has plagued our society for the last hundred years. Existentialism with a heart. Continue reading Quotes by Albert Camus

Works on the topic of liberty within the field of Psychology: Work in Progress

The goal of this document is to collect and share resources in the field of psychology that pertain to libertarianism and the converse tyranny. I am not limiting this to explicitly libertarian scholars and research.  If you have related material, I would love to include it here. The concept of liberty in the field of psychology is defined as research and theories relevant to the issues of voluntary interaction, self-determination, and celebration of the individual’s role in society.   Psychologists’ and their work addressing the role of liberty:

  • Thomas S. Szasz
  • Nathaniel Branden
  • Philip Zimbardo
  • Erich Fromm
  • Jacques Lacan
  • Victor Frankl

Continue reading Works on the topic of liberty within the field of Psychology: Work in Progress

LogoTherapy

Logotherapy

Quick Facts

Logotherapy was developed by a psychologist who went on to survive six concentration camps. His name was Viktor E. Frankl. Dr. Frankl had this theory before being sent to the camps, but it was through the fires of hell that the theory became cemented, both as an approach and in the minds of general public.

Basic premise

Man is free within the confines of his situation to
choose how to interact with circumstances. Man is not free from
conditions, he is free to take a stand towards conditions. “Things
determine each other, but man is ultimately self-determining.” Continue reading LogoTherapy

Austin Wanderings PT1

Okay, so no one took me up on my offer to hangout in Austin, so I decided to make it interesting for myself. Rather than be deterred and let a sight seeing opportunity go to waste, I parked my car in a parking spot and got to my wandering. 

I started off by going to the place I was supposed to go, the municipal courthouse*. They apparently do not like knives in their courthouses, so I had to drop off my pocket knife and try and pick it up later. BTW, in the twenty minutes I was in there, someone stole the knife. Bolivia ain’t go nothing on Austin, their hobos are far more gifted in the arts of lost and found.

Anyway, after the court business, I went to The Tiger and had a very nice Venison sausage for three dollars, happy hour, and then went back on my way. In between checking out local spots, I came across a man (Lotus) with a sign on his chest saying 25 cents for a joke. He tried 20 jokes and still couldn’t break me. We settled for a poem. Continue reading Austin Wanderings PT1